My name is John Rushton and I live in London but also travel throughout the UK and overseas, usually travelling at short notice. I run my own Life Coaching Company. I am the author of three books and appear on TV and Radio. I run a ‘surgery' every two weeks in Paris or Cote d'azure, primarily for the international community.
Most of my clients are within the Corporate/Media/Sports/Arts and Record industries and media and entertainment (people in the public image), but not exclusively.
As life seems to get more stressful and tangled, much of my work is “putting people back in charge of their lives”. Making them the centre of their universe NOT everyone else's around them. No guilt, no regrets, reduced stress, better smiles and happier relationships. Directional support and comfort is paramount to one's self esteem and happiness and in reducing the ‘dread' of daily life in certain areas.
By eliminating anger, ego and defragmenting the mind and reducing its hard drive clutter, one can see better where to go, how to do things better and look beyond the horizon, not just at what's in front of you but allowing the infinite possibility of good things to enter into your life. It also by default, allows you to sleep better, wake refreshed, eat better and enjoy life more fully too (Some of the biggest ‘let downs' in life, we engineer ourselves).
One of the major communication breakdowns is in the area of negative perception, ego and frustration; also the unwillingness to actually listen to someone else's point of view (they have a right to be wrong too).
Not being understood, just can't find the ‘break' needed to do what you want, going around in circles, not being able to proficiently put over your point of view in a way that will be accepted, bursting with ideas but no outlet, full of knowledge but no one's listening, etc, are just some of the thoughts which people wake up with daily.
The endless frustration even with quite successful people, often leads to them not actually enjoying life or being as happy as they should be every day, regardless of circumstances. Sometimes this ‘clouds' the way forward and actually prevents the ‘real' success and opportunities you desire that are awaiting you.
Raising your profile and elevating your status both within and without can be liberating and break barriers which were once perceived as large and turn the immovable boulders into stepping stones for that way forward. The infinite possibility of good and great things happening to you exists every day, yet how many people turn them down or pass them by because of their stoic and staid ‘mind sets' which are funded by degrees of negative emotions and questionable logic? To be truly accepting and to allow real growth not perceived growth can enable you to overcome ‘any' adversity in your life and start the happiness trail to what you really want.
If one's comments are acerbic and somewhat embittered or “bitchy” or arrogant, and if you can't say anything nice then DON'T. If you have a negative comment, then say it nicely and make sure whoever hears it respects what you've said and that you're not another frustrated, self opinionated, angry person trying to offload your own anger and frustration to make yourself feel better… (Small -minded, low self esteem, egotistical and not going anywhere - it all hits back in the end).
Being judgmental is a road that leads nowhere too! It's quite often a statement about you and your current situation in life. By default, people often subliminally pick up upon your own faults and weaknesses, which is not what you wanted.
Many people need to (although they wouldn't admit it) get a grip and do what they want in life and not moan about what they currently do!!! It's within our grasp; we can't blame others or circumstances. Life has NO guarantees.
Never accept advice from someone who has aspirations less than your own, they will find endless faults and try and bring you down, also don't solicit advice from everyone around you, it's 99% fatal.
How we react to others and even our business life, has to a large degree, a strong link with our own love / emotional life. If that's comfortably sorted then we perceive things more positively and proficiently, and take things less to heart and dwell on them less. (If we tend to dwell on stuff it is usually negative and leads to a ‘lowness' or depressed state no matter how small, we can even be spiteful to ourselves). We can to a large extent get over these negative feelings / emotions without losing our warmth and compassion and inner love, which for some, resides on the surface and for others dwells deeper within (it matters not). Enjoy every day, even the ‘knock backs' of / in love, enjoy the greater opportunities of what's available not what's been lost. Good things do come to if you allow them to and don't force the issue - anxiety and sadness are not options.
No matter how professional and proficient people are in their business life, when it comes to personal communications most people fall down badly. It's your life…communicate.
Today with so much going on in our lives, we tend to complain that we don't have as much time as we would like, when in reality we do have a great deal of time at our disposal. Time management is only one solution; it's our perception of what we want and need that can be our saving grace and provide greater flexibility in line with our inner requirements and provide a happier state of existence AND less stress too.
Finally, try and laugh at something every day of your life, even if it's at yourself....
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